There is no way to be a perfect mother, but there are a million ways to be a good one.’ – Jill Churchill
Working mothers bring a diverse and powerful set of experiences that can contribute to a successful team in the workplace. Research shows that a team of people with different backgrounds and perspectives lead to lower costs, higher revenues and increased profits, which translates to delivering for customers in a better way.
The challenges faced with being a working mom or a stay-home mom is the lack of self-care. The fact that you want to keep growing in your career, but also want to be home for all of the milestone moments with your family can create anxiety if not properly managed.
It is possible to pursue a fulfilling full-time career while taking an active role as a mother if you learn to find a balance that works for your life.
Here are a few tips/strategies to guide you through it all. Though not conclusive these can help:
1. Let go of the mom guilt: Mothers are so often judged for “abandoning” their children when returning to work full-time, while fathers are expected to go to work to “provide” for the family. Why is this sexist stereotype still so present in our seemingly progressive society?
Focus on the positive things that your work life is contributing to your family. Be confident that you are making the best choice for your whole family, including yourself, and your child will feel the extent of your love and understand your sacrifice.
2.Find childcare providers that you trust: Your child is your priority, therefore knowing that your child is cared for is crucial to your peace of mind. Find a good nanny with extensive experience and great references, or a quality daycare with flexible hours.
3.Communication At The Workplace: The important thing is to make sure you communicate to your manager what your needs are, as well as how you will continue to do your job well. Hopefully, your manager will be understanding and appreciate your transparency and dedication to both your family and your job.
4.Stay organized at home: To get the most done in the least amount of time, use shortcuts and plan strategically. It’s always easier to leave for work when you’re organized at home. Institute a weekly meeting to plan meals, date nights, childcare, travel and such.
Despite popular beliefs that stay at home mums is not a full-time job, more people are becoming aware that this is a full-time role. There’s no time out with this role, although the numerous benefits attached to it makes it all worthwhile:
1. You Are Present: Being at home all the time means that you will always be there for your kids whenever they need you. You will be there for their first words, first step, and other exciting milestones.
2. You Are Your Child’s Mentor: Since you will be your child’s first teacher, you will be in charge of what your child is learning and it isn’t only about the ABC’s and 123’s, but also about values, beliefs, and ideals.
3. Family Management: When mom is at home and available to accomplish tasks and flexible enough to do different things, her home and family will be able to function better in general.
Every mom has her own journey. Being a stay at home mom is not for everyone just like being a working mom is also not for everyone. There are definitely pros and cons to both but we all choose our path based on what works for our families and us. There is no right or wrong way of being a mom.